About the CEO and Founder
Dorcy is the Founder and CEO of Conscious Co-Parenting Institute, a Dorcy Inc. Company. Through reunification coaching and co-parenting education, Dorcy provides strategies and solutions for parents and children to reconnect, or stay connected, during and after a high-conflict divorce.
The primary focus of Dorcy’s work at the Conscious Co-Parenting Institute is high-conflict custody disputes involving emotional cutoffs within family members. This is what is most commonly known to many as "Parental Alienation." The main issue is when there becomes a parent-child cutoff as a result of pathogenic parenting, a form of child psychological abuse.
Dorcy's goal is to help establish custody plans and co-parenting roles that encourage positive relationships between children and BOTH parents. Helping families move from Divided to United. She herself was a formerly 'alienated' child, cutoff from her father for many, many years. Continue reading to hear about her reunification story.
Working with both mothers and fathers, as well as attorneys and therapists, Dorcy has spent the last decade or so as a Family Reunification Coach and Custody Consultant. She has worked on numerous cases, nationally and internationally, garnering positive results. For a list of the services Conscious Co-Parenting Institute can provide, click here. To hear and read of firsthand experience working with us, check out our testimonials, right here.
Where It All Started: Dorcy's Personal Journey
Dorcy Reunites with Her Dad
Dorcy has extensive experience in the family dynamic commonly known as "Parental Alienation," from her own personal experience as a child; as a divorced conscious co-parent of two beautiful daughters; and through relationships where her significant other was being alienated from his child.
Dorcy is certified to coach through the Coach Training Alliance and certified to teach several different parenting courses. She started to work with children and families all over the globe. It has been an uphill journey. However, a journey though years of trial and error, research, education, certification in various different modalities, the ability to heal her own family, her relationship with her father and the ability to maintain a healthy loving bond with her children, and maintaining a 50/50 physical and legal custody schedule with her girl’s father... all while living with a demanding travel schedule, active kids, and her intrusive alienating family.
Reunited after many years of an emotional cutoff, Dorcy and her father experienced a healthy, loving relationship that went beyond what she had ever imagined, until his passing in October of 2013 after a long hard fought battle with cancer. It was through fostering this relationship that Dorcy has learned the secrets to creating and maintaining loving relationships between parents and their children. Dorcy has since been able to help other families achieve the same goals, with both minor and adult children, including reuniting her father with his other three adult children who had been alienated since childhood.
"I had never considered what was happening to my dad. I never thought about his devastation at being alienated from his older children, and the difficulty it caused in the relationship with his current wife and the children that he was still raising.
My father and I tried to have a relationship for many of my adult years. It was not good for most of that time. It was fake, and I was haughty and arrogant towards him. I felt entitled; when I did not get what I wanted from him, I tossed him aside. I accused him of horrific things. My father responded in kind. He would also get angry, sad, hurt and lash out. We did this dance for nearly two decades...
When I was in my mid thirties, my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I knew I was running out of time. Failure was not an option and I had to solve this problem with my dad. I had to reunite with my dad and I had to help him reunite with all of his alienated children. I learned and mastered one of the most valuable lessons I could have ever learned."
Dorcy knows that cases involving emotional cutoffs and high-conflict divorce must be handled differently. It is not as simple as hiring professionals that are familiar with or say they understand "Parental Alienation" as there are many schools of thought around it. The specific legal issues that appear in alienation cases are very unique. A failure to understand and appreciate this on the part of mental health professionals or lawyers involved in these cases can, and often does, lead to disastrous results. Having the right team is vital in solving and eliminating child psychological abuse for your family.
Dorcy takes a non-traditional approach, which works. Dorcy has learned what works and what does not- through trial and error, personal experience, research, education, training, and then guiding families through a non-traditional approach. She can help you fast-track your results. You no longer have to wait, wondering what will happen next, or wonder if you will ever see your children again. Those who have worked with Dorcy will tell you: She holds nothing back.
Dorcy has a Coaching Certification and a Certification in Mediation and High-Conflict Resolution, and is certified to teach several different parenting curriculum, including training and working with Jayne Major, Ph.D. After teaching for several years, Dorcy has combined some of the best of the training and parenting classes. She has written a more powerful new curriculum focused on the challenges facing parents who are struggling through "Parental Alienation" and high-conflict divorce. Dorcy works with most of the industry leaders on solving the crisis of pathogenic parenting, otherwise known as “Parental Alienation” that plagues our families. These methodologies are counterintuitive, and Dorcy’s extensive work in helping people build better relationships has evolved into the Conscious Co-Parenting Institute. When Dorcy started working through her own family's situation, she discovered that the professionals were falling behind and something needed to change - and fast.
Pain into Purpose
Dorcy is certified to coach through the Coach Training Alliance and certified to teach several different parenting courses. She started to work with children and families all over the globe. It has been an uphill journey. However, a journey though years of trial and error, research, education, certification in various different modalities, the ability to heal her own family, her relationship with her father and the ability to maintain a healthy loving bond with her children, and maintaining a 50/50 physical and legal custody schedule with her girl’s father... all while living with a demanding travel schedule, active kids, and her intrusive alienating family. She learned how to turn her pain into a life of purpose.
"When I began my career as a coach, I was working with young people in the entertainment industry. What I learned very quickly was that many of them were struggling, and it had more to do with their parents than anything else. It was frustrating to see the same patterns over and over again. I had no idea what was happening, but was determined to find out.
Many of the issues I witnessed with the kids I was coaching, I had experienced myself. It was then that I began developing my skills as a co-parenting coach. Ultimately, those skills evolved into custody coaching, and then reunification coaching.
I was told by many of the leading experts that there is nothing to be done about parent-child cutoffs. I refused to accept failure as an option.
Parents and children are suffering at the hands of a vile pathogen. A pathogen, that not only robbed me of my childhood and a loving relationship with my father and extended family, but one that is vicious and continues to attack me and others, as we try to expose it and bring it into the light."
Richard Branson said it best:
“The best way of learning about anything is by DOING!” Dorcy brings to you personal experience, as well as professional experience, in working with families struggling through a high-conflict divorce. She started a co-parenting company that focuses solely on families struggling with high-conflict divorce and parental alienation. She always tells her students: "First you are a student, then you are a teacher. You can’t teach what you do not know.” She has spent the past several years helping families solve the "Parental Alienation" crisis and she can help you as well.
Conscious Co-Parenting Institute
Dorcy created the Conscious Co-Parenting Institute to help families struggling with the family dynamic of emotional child abuse, explained in the book, “Foundations,” written by Dr. Craig Childress. Dorcy walks families through easy-to-follow steps to assist parents, children, and professionals working with children dealing with their parents’ high-conflict divorce and child psychological abuse, including:
While Dorcy is best known for her one-on-one family reunification coaching and consulting, many of her students/clients share that her biggest impact comes from her philosophy of “designing your conscious co-parenting relationship, creating an environment where everyone is supported in living a self actualized life” – these teachings are based on unconditional love and mutual respect for every family member, teaching parents how to raise heart-centered, responsible children.
Dorcy’s main desire in starting the Conscious Co-Parenting Institute is to shift the world’s limiting beliefs about divorced families and to shift divorced families, dealing with the pain of pathogenic parenting, from 'Divided to United,' through the fostering of unconditional love and personal responsibility. Children love and need healthy, conscious parents. Children love both of their parents, even when they are not healthy. We believe that the best way to empower children and to change the world is to empower parents with this skills and tools they need to become Conscious Co-Parents.
"I share all of this with you so you are aware of how deeply I understand you and your children, and the extraordinary power of the pathogen. I have been exactly where both of you are. It was out of sheer frustration and lack of a clear answer and solution, that I went to try to figure out what the actual problem was, what the solution was and WHY the mental health professionals were not getting it. This is when I discovered the terminology, "Parental Alienation," coined by leading expert at the time, Dr. Richard Gardner. I read and studied everything I could get my hands on; back then, there was not a lot. I read Divorce Poison by Richard Warshak, and I have a full and extensive library of all the books I can find on "Parental Alienation," personality disorder, childhood trauma, attachment theories, emotional intelligence, how the brain functions and is wired, and how to grow neural pathways and how to change your mindset. I went out on a journey of self discovery, to solve this problem for myself and for my family. I have trained and studied and when offered, became certified to teach and coach with some of the world's leaders on the subject of "Parental Alienation" and high-conflict custody and divorce solutions. "
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