Trust within an alienated child towards their alienating parent is quite complex. It can be falsely based off false beliefs towards the parent, making the rebuilding trust aspect to repairing the relationship, that much more difficult.
Rebuilding trust with a child who has been alienated and may hold false beliefs about a parent requires patience, understanding, and a dedicated approach focused on nurturing a genuine connection. Here are some essential steps to consider in this journey of rebuilding trust.
- Look to find where you can take responsibility (check out step 3, here)
- Look to see where you can show up to rebuild trust, even if you don't think it is necessary
- Show consistency in your actions
- Create a safe and comfortable environment for your child
- Be transparent in your efforts
Trust is an essential part of the reunification process, because children want to trust their parent. When they hold a false belief, this can make it harder to rebuild.
To help you with this process, we have designed a Trust Architect cheatsheet. It is one small step on the reconnect roadmap, and what we go deep in during our upcoming program, Reconnect, with Dorcy Pruter. Get started with your cheatsheet now, right here.